- July 7, 2016
- Posted by: mharlos
- Category: organizing challenges, Setting Boundaries
Setting Boundaries means You Value and Respect Yourself.
With Organizing challenges it can be hard to ask for help. This is difficiult for many individuals but it is especially tough for women to ask for what we need.
And, we can set boundaries without being offensive.
Organizing Challenges – The Final 2 Steps:
- Under-promise and over-deliver. When you’re asked to do something, tell them that things will take a little longer than you expect.
And, if everything proceeds as planned, then you’ll finish early and they’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Boundaries are critically important to your success in life, both personally and professionally. They define who you are and who you are not. They empower you to value and respect yourself.
When you say ‘yes’ to one thing, it usually means saying ‘no’ to something else.
No individual can or should take on every single request and expect to emerge from the undertaking feeling calm, balanced or relaxed.
If something does come up you’ll still be able to deliver on time. Setting boundaries and setting expectations in the minds of others go hand-in-hand.
- Be polite
- Thank the person
- And leave the door open for the next opportunity – if you are keenly interested.
When I get asked to volunteer for something and I can’t make the commitment, I politely say thank you for thinking of me. I will have to decline this time.
If it’s something I am really interested in I add but please call me back the next time you’re doing this. Perhaps I will be available then.
Once I learned this strategy I never felt guilty again
did you notice I did not use the word NO.
A few years ago, I invited a guy to join our business association in the town where I live. I was on the executive as secretary for 3 years. And not because I was so good but because no one else wanted the job!
I scheduled in the Annual General Meeting which was not in our regular meeting place. I commented to my husband how nice it would be to have dinner together and then I would only have my 2 minute drive over to the church. When I arrived no one was there. By the time I waited a bit, drove home and checked my day timer (way before I moved into the 21st century with today’s ease of technology), I had missed the voting part of the meeting and much of the regular meeting so I skipped going all together.
And of course I had my script saying, thank you blah, blah, blah. Well, 2 days later I got the minutes and guess what – there was a new secretary. In fact, it was my invitee! So without meaning to I recruited my own replacement.
It is amazing how someone else will accept a role when you are no longer available to fill it!